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     August   |   September 2004   |   October     

Thursday, 2004.09.02:

  Mood-O-Meter: OK.

Dates. I hate dating because it always feel stuffy, like there's expectations involved. Like who gets to pay, about dressing nice, etc. It feels artificial. I'm the kind of person who likes the casual scene where you can gradually get to know someone. All my previous relationships evolved out of good friendships. So one has to wonder why I'd go out on a date. Like tonight.
      A mutual friend of ours suggested we ought to meet and so we met downtown. This was the first time I'd met him in-person; we had only spoken over e-mail and IM. Well, we ended up talking the evening away over food and drinks...


Monday, 2004.09.06:

  Mood-O-Meter: OK.

Mosh pits suck.

That's why I never go near them. And if I see them starting I back the heck away from the area. But when the mosh pit comes to you, what do you do?
      There all of us were, at the rails of the lawn seating during the Korn set, when all of the sudden we're shoved forward against the railing. Steve and I stumbled and then turned around to see the onslaught of some half dozen bare-chested guys bouncing off of each other in a wild frenzy. We quickly shifted to our right against the rest of the crowd who was also starting to notice the forming mosh behind us. But then we were shoved again. And again. And again...
      I swear these guys were totally stupid. Most of the people didn't care to be in the mosh and were spreading away from these f--kers, but no matter how far we went away the no-shirt guys kept bringing everyone into their orgy. Even the girls were getting slammed by them. Ugh.
      I've come to a conclusion, though: guys who mosh are unadmittedly gay or bisexual. Because, let's face it, guys don't touch other guys. It's the cardinal rule. Well, guys make exceptions only under the following circumstances:
At all other times it's hands off. But no, during rock concerts it is now completely legitimate for half-naked guys to touch other half-naked guys. Stupid stupid stupid.
      So, other than Steve and I getting trampled for an hour and us having to wait in the 100-degree heat for hours on end, Linkin Park's Projekt Revolution was pretty cool. Though, I have to admit, I really didn't get to see the performers at all because I'm too short to see over the other standing people. Fortunately the way Shoreline Amphitheatre is set up they have large monitors all around so you can get closeups.

...

I'm cutting down to 2x dilations per day. I would love to stick to the regimen of 4x/day for the first month, 3x/day for the next 5, then 2x/day for like another 6 months. I'm sorry, but dilations get in the way of having any sort of active social life. Now that I've reached the dilator size I want it's more about maintaining at this point anyways. I'll try it for a while and see if it works out.

...

Speaking of dilation, I thought you'd enjoy this exchange I had with a friend:
Friend: i thought it was more of a hands off put in oven, let cook 30 minutes, check, 15 more minutes, remove from oven kind of deal
Me: no
Me: it's like, um,
Me: scrambled eggs.
Me: add grease
Me: put eggs in pan
Me: let simmer.
Me: then start slowly teasing and rotating them.
Me: then flipping them over.
Me: adding cheese
Me: onions.
Me: oh, wait, we're talking about dilating?
Me: ok, there's no cheese and onions in dilating.
Me: but ... whatever.
Friend: maybe they'll make an automatic egg turner
Me: AUTOMATIC? OW.
Me: look, if it's another person stirring the pan sure.
Me: but i'm not getting a machine to do it for me.
Friend: rotating and stirring tool that meets many of your cooking needs all for 3 easy payments of $39.99
Me: sure...
Me: if it can do my laundry, shine my shoes,
Me: make cookie dough....
Friend: yummy
I thought you'd enjoy that.


Saturday, 2004.09.11:

  Mood-O-Meter: OK.

I guess today has somewhat of a somber overtone to it, being September 11th. I think I would actually have stronger feelings if I was a supporter of our war against Iraq.

Anyways.

So today after our morning run a few of us went out to one of the local art & wine festivals. It is pretty big, but also pretty hot. So we only made it about 1/2 way through it all. There were two guys and two of us girls; the guys looked sooooooo bored whereas the other girl and I were hopping in and out of the tents. Guys really don't appreciate this enough...
      So I found a few earrings and a toe ring. Yay! My first toe ring. Supposedly it's a sterling silver continuous wear type, which is fine by me. The woman who helped me said she wears hers all the time including when she's running. Well, I don't know about running, but it's pretty comfy.

...

Another T-friend asked me to do my guy voice for her. I flat out said no. Not that I can't go back and try to find it but really it's a part of my history that I want to leave behind. I made a promise to myself that when I hit full-time that meant completely going full-time. The only time I ever violated that was when I recorded some guy-voice audio blogs, but other than that I haven't used it since. I have no use for that old voice and I don't get any enjoyment out of switching back to it. If I ever want to hear how I sound I can just go back to the voice page and listen to that.

...

I heard on NPR that a new report says that people who journal (write diaries) are more likely to be more socially awkward. Gee, what does that say about us bloggers? Hehehe...


Sunday, 2004.09.19:

  Mood-O-Meter: OK.

Books. Running. Coding.

That's what my life has been lately. As a result I really haven't been online much. Over the past year an amazing amount of magazines have accumulated in my room, most unread. And let's not forget a few miscellaneous novels. So, it's time to get back to reading through them. I'm also doing a bit of research for personal projects. Yay.

Another race is coming up and I'm doing a short run. I've been feeling pretty good lately even only 2.5 months away from SRS. I don't know how I'm going to do in this next race and I've promised myself not to push myself.

And there are a few projects at work which have been consuming the rest of my time. The good thing is that the projects work and they met our milestones. The bad thing is that there's still a lot of work left to do so it looks like I'll be consumed with it in the next few weeks...

So it would seem that life has pretty much returned back to the status quo before SRS. And that just goes to prove that not much changes because you have surgery. ... Well, that's not entirely true, but it's generally true.

What is changing then? There are actually a number of things I've got going which are taking my life in totally new directions. I don't know if it'll all work out, but I am thinking that the next year will be a very interesting one indeed. I think having had SRS (or at least the first stage of it) has helped to remove a monkey off my back and allowing me to put my energies elsewhere.


Sunday, 2004.09.26:

  Mood-O-Meter: OK.

So, work sucks. I'm behind on projects again. Yay. The only thing I'm looking forward to right now is the coming weekend's Love Parade SF! This should be awesome...

What else happened recently? I got reintroduced to at least 1 person who I was pretty sure remembered me. I still can't get over how you can meet someone a few times, transition, and then have to tell them again who you are. Oh well.

And today I spent my morning and afternoon for the first time being surrounded by "hazaaaah!"s and hundreds of people in every manner of period garb. Yes, I went to a Renaissance Faire. I've been to comic book, anime, and sci-fi conventions before but this took it to a different level. Having a complete Elizabethan village spring up in the middle of a farming community is ... unique. All sorts of vendors encouraging you to sample their wares, make a display of strength, or sit to watch a show was cool. In our little party three donned Faire garb---multilayered dresses and bodices. It was cute! The two teenage girls had a real blast, even trying to convince me I needed garb too. Heh. Had I known there were garb rentals I might have considered it for the day. Ah, next year. (I don't think I want to spend $200+ on something I wouldn't wear that much.)

As a side note, it was interesting to watch the two teenage girls because they were so energetic and innocent. The world is their playground and they weren't all that shy of just having fun. I think now that as we get older and have more baggage with us we forget what it's like to just explore without bounds.

Anyways, I'm going to drop off the radar again for another week or so as I try to work on a few projects at work...


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