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transgendered (TG) persons. Follow the journey of Amber,
a post-transition MTF TS.
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I just got back from a date with this guy I met a couple weeks ago.
'Scuse me for a sec...
Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
So, he shows up at 8pm pretty much on the dot---poor guy really had
to hoof it up to my neighborhood. I rang him up on his celly telling
him I was going to be a second since I had to get my laundry (true).
I finally get down there and the poor guy is getting drenched in the
rain! He didn't bring an umbrella! He asks me where to go and off
we head...
We chatted for almost two hours down at the place. He's a cool guy,
dirty brown mutton chops, and European descent. He's in the
arts industry so we talked a lot about that stuff. I guess I kinda
got a crash course in his field. I just liked the way he held my
gaze and how he seems sincere. He's gone back to school, and he's
just finishing up now. I told him about my so-so job. Haha....
Finally we went back to my street corner, rain still gushing out of
the sky like a broken sprinkler. I handed him my umbrella saying to
return it later. We parted...
I wouldn't mind seeing him again if he's up to another encounter.
Boy, I'm going to go to bed
smiling tonight. Using a phrase a friend said: I got permagrin.*grins brightly*
I'm having one of those moments of reflection right now. Life is taking
weird twists and turns at the present.
I've been spending the last few weeks being a "fag hag". (I didn't come
up with that label!) It has been interesting talking with gay friends
because they wear gay like a badge. They have gay culture, gay dating,
gay fashion, etc. And here I am about as queer as they come and yet I
pretty much stick to the "hetero" boring group. I don't talk about the
trans stuff, I don't participate in the trans community, and I don't
have "trans fashion"---whatever that means. As one person put it,
I'm "vanilla" in more ways than one.
The reason I started thinking about it is because I've been carpooling
with one gay guy to/fro work. We talk about all sorts of things,
especially including his gay lifestyle. But I never seem to offer anything
about being trans. And, yes, he knows. (One day he was looking at some
ancient code I had written and asked "is this your old user ID?". Yup,
I'm guilty as charged.)
Should I talk about it? I don't know. It's funny how he'll talk down
to me sometimes like "oh, well, guys think this way" or "you're a
girl so this might not make sense". Of course, I could come back
with "hey, been there been that!", but I'm holding off on saying it.
I just feel like sometimes maybe I ought to get a little more
into trans stuff. Yet, I still come back to the point: what would
the point be in doing that? I have no interest...