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thinking deep |
You really have to think things through before you jump---if you fall it's a long way down. Quite frankly, I found that I couldn't find out what my feelings were until I had experimented and explored. That's partially why it has taken me a long time (since '98) to really figure out that this is probably the right thing for me. I took those baby steps until I felt relatively comfy at each level before I took the next big step. However, having thought the deeper issues through really helped solidify my resolve.
Anyone that knows me knows I always bombard them with questions.
Though, these are the same questions I've asked myself at one time or
another:-
Why am I even here reading this?
- Is there really a problem?
- Am I thinking clearly?
- How long has my gender bothered me?
- Have I read up on the topic from other reputable sources?
- Have I been able to talk to other trans people to see where they've been?
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Am I really transsexual?
- Am I a cross-dresser instead?
- Am I gay?
- Am I just fascinated with people doing body mods?
- Are there other medical conditions which I may be misinterpreting as transsexuality?
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What have I got to lose by transitioning?
- ... my job?
- ... my family?
- ... my health?
- ... my friends?
- ... my life?
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Am I willing to endure risk? Can I stand ...
- ... surgery complications?
- ... nerve damage?
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Is transition really realistic for me?
- Do I have enough money in the bank?
- Can I pass well enough so people treat me as the gender I want to present?
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Is my health in good enough shape?
- Can I tolerate HRT?
- Can I survive SRS or top/bottom surgeries?
- Am I willing to be on HRT for the rest of my life?
- Am I willing to dilate for the rest of my life?
- Do I have friends that can help?
- Can I face the cultural, community, religious, or family discontent?
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What will I gain from this?
- Is peace of mind enough reward?
- Am I really truthful about all these answers?
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